This is a Certified Sex ED Blog! My pronouns are he/it.

No, I am not a doctor or a therapist, nor do I have a certificate. Just training (unfinished due to disabilities) and experience.

Minors, DMs (I will rarely respond to those though, sorry!), asks and @'s are 100% welcome, just keep in mind I do not tolerate hate speech. If you want me to answer your ask privately, just add it to your ask! Check out my Before You Ask Post (before you ask!)

Also, I have a No Stupid Questions Rule, ask whatever the fuck you want, no matter how obvious it seems.

(If your question is "genital specific" or you think it might be, please do not tell me you're "AFAB/AMAB" and assume that tells me your genitals. It does not!)

If I ever reblog anything that seems bigoted or by someone bigoted, feel free to let me know (with some explanation, please!)

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#sex education <- all sex ed in general.

#sex tips <- tips specifically on having sex!

#asexual education <- education on asexuality!

#aromantic education <- education on aromantism!

#trans education <- education on trans-related things!

#intersex education <- education on intersex-related things!

#hormone education <- education on hormones/HRT

#sex work education <- education on sex work!

#kink education <- education on kink!

#consent 101 <- education on consent!

#disability education <- education on disability-specific sex ED!

(Fundraising is tagged #vetted)

Actually, as far as I know, that is absolutely fine.

See, melanin is actually very sensitive to hormones like estrogen and increases, or even general fluctuations and that can affect areas like the groin!

So areas like your genitals or even your nipples might darken in color in response to hormonal shifts. It varies from person to person, with some experiencing it a lot, some not at all, and some only a little but there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Unless its causing you pain, Anon, that's just another beautiful variation of the human body. Thank you for letting me answer even though you were embarrassed, I hope this helps. 💓

So, here's the thing; I have a lot of asks. From a long time ago to now. And since Tumblr hates my autistic swagger, you can't organize them or anything like that, so I have a haphazard kind of technique for getting through them.

By which I mean, when my disabilities allow me some time and energy, I haphazardly answer what I think I have the most ability to and what needs most to be answered (that I remember).

That said, lately I kinda found out I can play video games a little despite my disabilities and some of that time has been spent with some dope girls who've been playing with me. (Shout out dope girls! 🥰)

All this to say, I've been slower than normal due to disabilities and having some fun (despite those disabilities) so in all probability, I just haven't gotten to your ask yet! But sometimes asks also get missed or lost to the void so you're always welcome to resubmit.

But trust, I'm not ignoring you. I'm just slow and possibly gaming if its a good day. 💀

I did have to look that name up to make sure I was remembering it correctly but FUCK, I hope not. 😭😭💀

Bro was a miserable ass character LMAO.

Hello! Thank you for trusting me to answer.

Yep, it very much is. While some people don't get really horny and others get horny even before becoming a teen, the differences in hormones during teen years often cause a rise in libido (horniness), which encourages masturbation!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and its actually fairly healthy.

It makes sense to feel a little gross when you aren't used to that and live somewhere that its looked down upon but its very natural and fine for you.

But try not to be judgmental towards yourself, Anon; sex can be messy but its not impure or bad for you and anyone telling you differently is not only ignoring the actual science behind y'know, your existence but also literally most of existing creatures.

So trust me when I say they're probably not a reliable resource.

As for tips, I do have some!

1. Try lube! If you aren't already, lube can be great for sex, including masturbation, and help prevent little tears and cuts, as well as cut down on germs!

2. Make sure you're washing your hands before and after! Your genitals can be sensitive and if you have a vagina, it is far more probable to get infected. Washing your hands is huge for preventing this.

3. Be wary what you stick inside of you or use as lube. Not all sex toys are as good as others and neither is lube. This also applies to DIY lube and sex toys.

For example, something like vasoline is likely to trap germs on your genitals, as well as encourage STIs, degrade latex and will breed bacterial vaginosis. But something like mayonaise will do all of that and has additional probability of irritation and infection because of things like lemon and milk/egg products spoiling and breeding in your skin.

All of that to say, what you use makes a difference to your body! This is a good article if you want more info on DIY sex toys and I have a post with some more info on DIY lube specifically here too.

And above all, 4. enjoy yourself! You're not doing anything wrong, not by exploring or by learning more about sex education!

Thank you for trusting me to answer. I hope this helps a little! <3

Hi! I actually think, in a weird way, despite my shitty physical condition, that I am doing well and I hope you are too! 💓

There is a term! The area between your genitals and anus is called your perineum and it can absolutely get pimples and ingrown hairs, just like the rest of your body. So its fairly likely if they look and behave like pimples/ingrown hairs, that's what they are.

As for how likely it is for them to get infected, it kind of depends on how sweaty you get in that area regularly and how clean you keep it when you're having a breakout! If they're ingrown hairs, infection is more likely but if you haven't had to take out any hairs and they don't always appear on the same spots on the perineum, they're probably pimples.

Which aren't too likely to get infected as long as you keep the area clean (and I don't mean roughly cleaning it or trying to sanitize the area; just make sure its not covered in crud, use some water if you need to and be gentle) and dry!

And even if they get infected, its not an immediate 'oh you're fucked'. Just keep them clean and maybe try some gentle heat, preferably from something like a warm washcloth, on and off, to try and take down any inflammation and ease out any fluids.

As for products, a lot of products aren't good to put around your genitals! I'm not really sure which would be or how many count the perineum in that, especially since I don't know what products you're referring to specifically.

What I can say is that its definitely not a big issue unless you're currently having excessive, dangerous issues with infections and hygiene.

It sounds like you're doing very well. Just a little extra care is generally all you need and a little extra 'shut the fuck up, its okay' to the anxious cynic in your head.

You're very welcome! I hope something here is a little helpful at least. 👍

As long as you're enjoying yourself, its not causing you lots of distress and/or pain (that you don't want), its fine.

You could masturbate for literal hours every day and as long as you're enjoying it, its not causing unintended pain/tearing/etc and you're finding time to eat and do anything else you need to, its fine.

If its causing you unintended pain or distress, that's when it becomes a concern. But your nerves are very unlikely to experience damage during masturbation (unless you're doing something electric or sometimes that causes extreme damage and/or tearing repeatedly), its generally pretty safe.

Hope this helps, Anon! Let me know if you have any other questions! <3

Well, for anyone wondering, as far as I know, calories are how much energy something gives you when you eat/drink it.

There's actually not a lot of research on how many calories things like ejaculate, discharge, or arousal fluid contain. What little research there is on it seems to point to "not a lot" but that doesn't mean there's none.

So, probably yes but as far as I know, there's not a lot of genuine research on it.

Yeah, that sounds like CSA.

If he was collecting footage of half/naked children, even if some of the people there were not children, that's absolutely a variation of CSA and falls under CSEM (child sexual exploitive material).

It sucks that was just dropped on you and you didn't get any context, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. 💞

Hi! I'm so glad to hear that and you're very welcome. 🥰

Well, I'm here with an answer! It absolutely can be. That's something that can change plenty over your life, whether from weight changes or hormonal changes or even just growing!

Especially if you're 17, it makes sense you might be experiencing breast growth! That's very common in your teens, including at 17.

That said, if it's extreme pain or you find any growth that seems very irregular or lump-like, or even if the pain is just consistently annoying, its definitely worth getting checked out if you can!

Even if its not something extreme, your doctor might be able to recommend something to help deal with it beyond regular pain meds.

Regardless, yes, that's definitely okay, though I'm sorry because I know that can be annoying and dysphoric. I hope this helps with the confusion a bit though, let me know if you have any other questions. <3